Asking for Help Doesn’t Make You Weak—It Makes You Brave
- Melony Hill
- May 13
- 2 min read
It takes guts to say, “I need help.” Society often paints independence as strength—but the truth is, none of us were meant to heal alone. Growing up in the Black community, seeking therapy was shunned. I can remember trying to seek help as an adolescent just to have My mom tell the therapist that I was a liar. It was more important to hide the secrets inside the home, including domestic violence and other forms of abuse.
Seeking help—whether from a therapist, coach, support group, or friend—isn’t giving up. It’s choosing to fight with reinforcements. It's choosing to honor yourself enough to say, “I deserve support.” It wasn't until a loved one outside of My family pushed Me to seek help, that I finally started My healing journey in 2009. Over the years, I've healed so much that I've been able to help others along their journey.
That doesn't mean I'm 'healed' though, healing is a life-long journey. I'm still healing. In fact, while I was away, I started seeing a new therapist weekly. I'm enjoying the opportunity to process My thoughts and feelings out loud with someone who can help Me through My own challenges as they arise.
If your mind has been whispering that you’re too much, not enough, or broken beyond repair, please know: you’re human. And humans heal better when they’re held. It's okay to seek support. In fact, it makes you brave in a world where others look down on those who '-"need" help, when in reality, we all could use therapy. Therapy is just a way to process your thoughts, emotions and actions.
Healing starts when you realize you don’t have to escape your emotions—you just have to process them in ways that don’t harm you.
Journaling Prompt: Outside of therapy, what’s one coping skill that helped you survive before, but no longer serves the version of you you're becoming?
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