New Year Phenomenal Me With These Simple Life Changes
It's a New Year, the Old Me Won't Do
Here we are, a week into 2021 and if you are anything like Myself, and millions of others in the world, you have been trying to tell yourself, new year, new you, new goals, new money moves.
I have been repeating “new year, phenomenal Me” in My head like a broken record. A “New Me” just will not do in 2021 for Me. I am focused this year on being nothing but the most phenomenal version of Myself that I can be.
It will not be easy, it will require Me to put My foot down with not only others in My life, but with Myself as well. Just as there are behaviors and attitudes that I will not accept from people wishing to hold space in My life, there must be attitudes and behaviors that I can no longer accept from Myself.
I Deserve Better Than What I Allowed Last Year
This year above all else, I must tackle My nature to procrastinate like it was a thief running away with My riches, because it is. Procrastination leads to loss time, money, and opportunity. I deserve better from Myself.
Along with My unhealthy relationship with procrastination, I must confront My attitude towards being held accountable. I spend a lot of money and energy on things that I say I want and care about just to lose momentum and lay them aside. I am also guilty of doing the bare minimum and coasting on the waves I make. The reality is, I always know that I am performing below My capabilities, but onlookers cannot tell. It looks like I am doing much more than I ever am.
I avoid My accountability groups and partners, which also keeps Me isolated when I could be talking to and working alongside people who understand My passion and are also building a bigger brighter future for themselves. The self-isolation I have imposed on Myself does not benefit Me.
Here's How I'm Reclaiming My Life
Determined to be My most phenomenal self in 2021, I have started the new year differently that I ended it for sure. Some of the things that I have implemented to bring peace and balance to My life are:
Creating a Detailed Morning Routine
I have written down the steps to My morning routine. I have a check list now that I can look at to see if I skipped anything. It may seem a bit much, but with My mental illness, it helps a lot. The days that I do My yoga in the morning are clearly outlined so that I do not forget or hold Myself to the “3 days a week” mindset I had where I could just keep pushing it off to the next day. Now it is on My Monday, Wednesday, and Saturday morning schedules.
Limiting Social Media in the Morning
It is easy to get distracted in the mornings, especially if we have others in our home we must get up and ready in the mornings or have the nasty habit of jumping on social media before we have a chance to really start our day.
I have had to limit social media in My morning routine, most notably, stopping Myself from taking My phone into the bathroom in the morning. I am sure I’m not the only one who has sat in the bathroom, scrolling social media until My legs went numb. Well, I hope that I am not the only one 😉 Just removing the phone from the bathroom in the morning reclaims so much of My time and morning peace.
Breaking Down My Weekly Tasks in Advance
I am not the best at keeping up with what is on My plate. I get halfway through one thing, get distracted and start another more often than I would like to admit. I forget small steps that lead to business and personal issues at times.
I looked at what the most common parts of the work I do are and picked designated days to do certain types of work, outlining how much time I can devote to each set of tasks. Doing that allows Me to sit down on Sundays and see, based on the time I have allotted for each thing during the week, what tasks I need to focus on daily. This also helps Me stop Myself from overworking and draining Myself and forces Me to take breaks.
Saying “NO” To Things That No Longer Serve Me
This year has not started without some emotional turmoil as I say no to things that only feel good in the moment. I ended My relationship late last year because My needs were not being met yet continued to see My ex romantically as if the way he made Me feel would change without the title. I had to finally put My foot down and say even as friends, you are lacking, and I cannot do this. It hurt, but it is what is best for the lifestyle I am working hard to create; one where My needs are met without asking because that is just how he feels about Me.
It is lonely, I am sad at times, and now, not even My sexual needs are being met, yet I am at peace. No longer will I compromise My wants and needs to fit what someone has to offer. If it is not what fulfills Me, I will wait until I find something that does. That goes for dating, friendships, opportunities, and everything else in My life. I would rather have what I want than what someone thinks I am worth if it does not align.
Carving Out Self Care & Learning Time
It sometimes feels like I did so much to get through the day that when I find Myself free, the last thing I want to do is read, learn, or study. Without these things, how will I grow? My growth has been on hold due to My failure to balance My time properly. I have designated days to study for the certification program and other classes I am taking.
I have also set aside time every Saturday to learn how to craft. I have all these new machines and crafting materials I never find time for, though I say it matters. Now I have designated tome to focus on learning and utilizing My craft area and machines.
Sundays are for shameless self-care, being as I have figured out My work and study schedule, I feel comfortable saying on Sundays I do Me. I do not work or worry with other people’s problems nor wants, I soak My feet, color, curl up with a movie or anything that makes Me feel good.
Just these few small changes have helped Me start the new year more balanced, peaceful and in tune with My needs, dreams, and goals. What small changes could lead to big impact in your daily life? Share with Me in the comments below.